Gratitude

I’d love to start writing a blog post at least once a month. Turns out I love writing, but rarely make time for it. I easily put all kinds of words down when I make time for it, but with two little ones running around and all my other hobbies and jobs; it’s tough to keep up my practice. I can’t even tell you how many journals I’ve started and have abandoned over the years, but I still look back on my writing and really quite enjoy reading it, even as cringe worthy as some of the spelling mistakes can be. Anyway, this post isn’t about writing about writing, I just wanted to give myself a self-fulfilling prophecy: I am a great writer, I love writing, and I can and will be committed to my writing practice. So there we go— moving right along.

It’s November, which means it’s a great time to be grateful. Looking past all the bizarre and problematic issues with the Thanksgiving story, I think we can all safely agree that feeling, showing, and communicating gratitude is a good thing. The thing I love about gratitude is that it can reframe my mind. It’s sort of my default state when everything else is aligned and all my ducks are in a row. If I’m full up on self-care, I’m not feeling the urge to control, my side of the street is clean, and then I can really soak in the waters of gratitude. I love it. Here are some of the basic things I’m grateful for on a daily basis.

Hot water

A shower is part of my rudimentary self-care. If I don’t get a shower, everything is more difficult. I also love taking a bath in my claw foot. Isn’t it incredible before the Victorian era, people didn’t usually have bathrooms inside their house? I’m so grateful to have a bathroom! That works!

Friends

I absolutely love my friends. I love checking in, I love hearing stories, I love having them over. When I feel like I’m nothing but a childcare and chore robot, they refresh me and remind me that I’m a human who can laugh. I’m pretty selective about my friends. I only have people in my life who are truthful, down-to-earth, drama free, not too concerned with status of any kind and don’t take themselves too seriously. And have a great sense of humor. It’s hard to find people like that, but I sure do love them. So if you are reading this, and we are friends, I want to say thanks, because you really do light up my life.

My kids

Duh. Obligatory and self-explanatory. I’m so thankful to have healthy, happy, growing, kids. Even though sometimes it feels like they are sucking brain cells directly out of my brain and into their own, I’m so grateful for them. They teach me stuff (mostly a stark outline of my own boundaries but other stuff too), they teach me patience; they humble me, and put me in tons of situations where I need to apologize, so they’ve taught me the beauty of apologizing freely. And gosh they are beautiful, in the way they talk to me, in the way they love each other. How I have to teach them to be strong as well as sweet, because they naturally come too sweet for this world. Ugh, now I’m crying. Keep it together, Bonnie! We aren’t even close to half way done!

My house

I love this funny old place. I love that I recently found a Facebook group for people who own old houses. I had no idea that was a club that I’m a part of. For those of you who don’t know, I live in a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom, 1000 sq ft house built in 1937. It’s silly looking on the outside because the roof doesn’t match the trim, it’s insulated only slightly better than a cardboard box, it’s got spider webs everywhere, and it’s really too small for when the kids get bigger, but I love it. I love the view from the back of my property. I love that I can have my goats and someday it will be something. I love the woodstove that Claudio and I installed before we moved in. I love that we heat entirely with wood, even though it’s a ton of work. I love the town we live in. I love the school my kid goes to. And that’s all because of this little house. It even came with a very cool cat that lives here so that’s fun too. Sometimes I’m just grateful that I was able to buy a house, when I know so many people my age just can’t. My parents saved up money that we used for a big portion of our down payment and I’m grateful for that too. Being a homeowner was a dream I had for a lot of years and it’s easy to get bogged down in all the stuff that “needs to be done” (fencing, siding, grating, a whole house fan, more fencing, kitchen remodel, etc.) but for now, it keeps us safe, and warm, and is a fun little place to be. I really do love it and I love working on it with my husband.

Officiating

I love officiating weddings; they are so straightforward and simple and beautiful. I love how easy my job is compared to everything else that goes into a wedding. Most of all I love meeting a couple, learning their story, getting to know them, and putting it all together into a lovely ceremony all in celebration of their love. It’s so so so fun and so rewarding and just the loveliest thing. I love shaking hands and hugging their parents afterwards and then casually strolling away as the party just gets started. I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to play that kind of role in a couple’s life.

Coaching

I love coaching. Again, it’s such an amazing honor to be welcomed into someone’s private thinking and help them navigate to a safer and more fun space. I love hearing all the hidden wins that my clients give me and how they thank me for seeing them when the client definitely couldn’t. I love how natural it feels and how it focuses me. I love how it reminds me to keep growing in my own relationship and challenges me to keep improving. It’s such an honor and I can’t wait to do more.

Naps

So good. They keep me patient and kind. I love them so much.

My husband

Second to last but definitely, positively, not least at all in any way shape or form. No one makes me giggle like that guy. He keeps me on my toes, he’s always joking with me. He’s such a great dad. He works super hard to make all my dreams come true. He is patient and supportive and always tries as hard as he can. He makes me feel like a million bucks (or better– does money have feelings? I love that phrase but it really doesn’t make much sense.) He’s the best snuggler. We have so much in common. I love everything we’ve built together. I love his funny messages and gifs he sends me. I love how hard he works at everything. I love that we can dance and sing together and he’s just my favorite person that I’ve ever met.

“The Skills”

This is one that I’m thankful for all the time. My life for the last year and a half has been EXPONENTIALLY better because of Laura Doyle’s methods on life. I went from being depressed, anxious, full of doubt, stressed out, being overworked, never feeling like I was enough, feeling like my husband hated me, (ugh it was a lot) to feeling pretty much the opposite all the time. I’m happy, I’m relaxed, I have fun on a daily basis, I have a strong and wonderful relationship with not just my husband, but my kids, my friends, my parents, my clients, etc. Even when life throws its worst at me, (looking at you October!) and sometimes I just need to cry it out, I still go back to being thankful that I can handle any situation with grace and dignity and if I don’t, I can apologize and the world will forgive me. I will be cradled by the gifts around me and I will find my faith that there are good things in store for me.

Well there you have it– things that I am grateful for and that I felt like writing about. I have lots of other things too like my other job, my parents, food, my bed, my chorus but I’ll save those for another time.

Writing that was just as enjoyable as I thought it would be….very, and I hope you enjoyed reading it. What things are you grateful for in your life? Put them in the comments below. I’d love to read about them. Maybe we can get caught in a gratitude spiral where we are just filled with love and warmth and appreciation for all the good things that are out there just for us. I love when that happens.

Published by Bonnie Stewart

Mama, wifey, relationship coach, writer, community builder, OG Flourishing Lady

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