I —honest to God—- tried traditional marriage for 🚩🚩🚩🚩 (Four!) years… AskMe Anything. I spent 2018 to 2020 as a surrendered wife. I’m a certified coach in the ways of becoming a surrendered wife. How to act, all the rules. I broke myself apart to fill the shape of his container. It was a partContinue reading “I surrender and then I live”
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The Children Did Well Today; I am Grateful
Today was trying for me. The test of the mettle I’m made of kind of days. What will I do when I can’t find the key to the car to go pick up my kids. Will I turn on my loved ones and find someone else to blame? It’s clearly my own idiocy to blame.Continue reading “The Children Did Well Today; I am Grateful”
What to do when your husband explodes
A few of you have recently had experiences where your husband gets strangely aggressive quite suddenly and it’s scary and strange. I wanted to share that this seems to be a shared experience that’s happening at least partially on a collective level. I’m not sure exactly what the implications of that are, but I wantContinue reading “What to do when your husband explodes”
Just Keep Swimming…
Hello Friends, It’s been tooooooo long. And I don’t say that because I hold myself to a standard that I haven’t met, which is what old Bonnie would mean by that. What I mean is that I LOVE writing. It is one of those things that I enjoy doing. I get lots and lots outContinue reading “Just Keep Swimming…”
Late Summer is Hard
This is hard time of year for me every year. It’s hot. We don’t have central AC and we only run window units at night when electricity is cheaper for us. The fires are terrifying. The ash in the air makes me worried. All of our precious belongings are packed in the car and I’mContinue reading “Late Summer is Hard”
Respect and the Stories We Tell
Laura, my relationship mentor, asked me what I thought made the biggest difference when I was transforming my marriage. I told her my biggest change was all the things I stopped doing. I still feel like that’s the case. Looking at the Six Intimacy Skills – two of them are centered around what you canContinue reading “Respect and the Stories We Tell”
Receiving: A Holiday and Year Round Endeavor
Well, here I am. I had set my goal at making one blog post a month and I really made my way through December before I got here. It’s been a little crazy around here, not just holiday-wise but that too. My husband is a carpenter and he spent most of the month trying toContinue reading “Receiving: A Holiday and Year Round Endeavor”
Surrendered to what?
The day that I screamed so hard I thought I’d never sing again, I prayed to whatever was up there to teach me how to be a better wife because I couldn’t go on like this. I was depressed, anxious, and furious pretty much all the time. I first thought that I could pretend myContinue reading “Surrendered to what?”
My Story
When I met Claudio, I knew he was the funniest, intellectual, good-hearted, interesting, caring man I’d ever know. I was over the moon when I started to realize he felt the same way about me. In those first months, complete strangers would stop and congratulate us on our over-the-top, completely obvious infatuation with each other.Continue reading “My Story”
Bonnie Stewart 